In my last blog post, I shared thoughts about holiday spending. I used to purchase gifts for only my mom, niece, and two nephews. Last year I decided to not purchase gifts at all because holiday shopping is stressful and it was out of my budget. Thankfully everyone was understanding. Making the choice to not purchase gifts was empowering. I was able to recognize how the holiday season impacts my mood and finances. Opting out was practicing self-care.

This rule also applies to myself. I wouldn’t be upset if my significant other didn’t buy me a gift for Christmas, Valentine’s Day, or my birthday. Don’t get me wrong, receiving a gift makes you feel great! But I also think about more productive ways the money could have been spent. There are many ways to enjoy the act of gift-sharing while preserving your sanity and bank account.

Here are a few ideas that I’ve practiced over the years:

Limit the number of gifts you buy

My fiancé, stepdaughter, mom, niece, and nephew were the only people that received gifts for many years. All my siblings and friends understand that gifts for adults aren’t necessary. Relieving the financial burden from one-another is a gift in itself.

Secret Santa

I’m a huge fan of Secret Santa. It’s exciting to not know who your gift is from. Buying less gifts also lets you put more thought into the process. I spend more time reflecting on the personality and character of the person. I anticipate the surprise on their face while opening a gift I hope they love.

Buy a gift one family can share

Help all the children in one family learn to share. Disney plus is an affordable family gift that everyone can enjoy for a full year.

Only purchase for children under a certain age

Capitalism is the American way. We’ve learned to spend money and accumulate debt. The only way to break the cycle is to teach our younger family members that gifts don’t equal love.

Buy a gift card

This is my go-to for work and baby showers. No need to stress over finding the perfect gift! Let the receiver pick themselves.

Make a gift

Putting our God-given talents to good use is an awesome way to show love and save money. I always appreciate DIY gifts because they take time, creativity, and skill to produce.

Give the gift of time

Time is something most adults don’t have enough of. We go weeks (sometimes months) without seeing the most important people in our lives. Having a movie night with siblings, parents, and cousins is more valuable than anything. Planning Friendsgiving lunches and happy hour with friends is a gift in itself.

More ways to give time:

Offer to babysit and give parents a date-night (only for people you are extremely close to)

Take elderly relatives or friends out to lunch.

Offer to do chores or grocery shopping for elderly relatives

Take older children to see a movie

Take younger children to craft classes

I love Christmas but don’t enjoy Christmas shopping. Finding creative ways to show love and appreciation to family and friends helps my inner Grinch find balance. These seven practices have been a huge life saver over the years.

I would love if everyone could share their thoughts. What are your holiday hacks that help you get through the season?

Lady Grinch’s Guide to Gifting

Here are a few ideas that I’ve practiced over the years: